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It’s Never about the Centerpiece: The Anxiety of Entertaining

It’s Never about the Centerpiece: The Anxiety of Entertaining

Andy and I planned on going to his parents’ house for Thanksgiving dinner. Those plans changed in the sweetest of stomach-turning ways – skunks moved in under their house and sprayed the place. It seeped into pretty much everything and lingered for days. Rather than […]

Runaway Wedding Guest: When Social Anxiety Attacks

Runaway Wedding Guest: When Social Anxiety Attacks

A few months after we started dating, Andy took me to a wedding. A dozen or so people there were friends of his I’d met before, but I didn’t know anyone well. Andy was officiating, so I was kind of on my own before and […]

Walk Their Way: Guided Meditation (5 Minutes)

Walk Their Way: Guided Meditation (5 Minutes)

In this 5-minute guided meditation, you begin in a meadow of tall grasses and wildflowers, a narrow path winding before you. Use the recording or, if you’re leading a meditation, you can read it yourself using the transcript below. Walk Their Way Close your eyes. […]

Nothing I Do Is Good Enough: Worry Journal Exercise

Nothing I Do Is Good Enough: Worry Journal Exercise

It’s a real killer admitting it — that nothing I do is good enough — not because I’m embarrassed by it, but because I try so damn hard. What’s worse is, the harder I try, the more harshly I judge myself when I fall short. It’s […]

How I Came to Love the Hammering Next Door

How I Came to Love the Hammering Next Door

One of our neighbors is having work done on their house. It’s loudest in the mornings, often right around the time we start meditating. If I try to ignore it, the construction noise drives me crazy because it’s all I hear. But if I actually […]

Love Today Comes Easy: Guided Meditation (5 Minutes)

Love Today Comes Easy: Guided Meditation (5 Minutes)

In this 5-minute guided meditation, you begin in the middle of a canyon. The only sign of life is a distant tree against a deep blue sky. Use the recording or, if you’re leading a meditation, you can read it yourself using the transcript below. Love […]

I Won’t Be Loved If I’m Not Perfect: Worry Journal Exercise

I Won’t Be Loved If I’m Not Perfect: Worry Journal Exercise

When you associate perfection with love, it becomes your end goal – the perfection part, I mean. And that’s a losing battle for reasons we all know: We aren’t perfect, and we never will be. I’m tired of chasing a purpose that’s so misguided, and […]

The Highest Purpose, Love?

The Highest Purpose, Love?

To begin with, I searched “finding your purpose.” After a lifetime of not knowing, it’s the kind of thing you want to shorthand, so naturally I was drawn to How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes. Here’s the gist of it (though […]